28 Mar 2012

You are a very sex positive person and I'm a male feminist but I was shocked to see this explanation of sexual objectification "objectification only occurs when the individuality of the desired person is not acknowledged. Pornography, prostitution, sexual harassment and the representation of women in mass media and art are all examples of common sexual objectification." Just because I don't listen to the life story of a women before I fap means I'm a sexist? Plus men are 'objectified' too.

Hmm. I think this statement was on the right track for the first sentence. But that doesn’t mean that ALL sexual portrayals without giving you the person’s life story are objectifying. What they don’t acknowledge is that porn is basically a masturbatory aid. I don’t think people really watch what they find the most appealing (i.e., something representative of the sex they want in real life), they watch what will get them off the fastest. There are steps we need to take to make the pornography industry as a whole more positive though: portray sex in a more realistic way, expand the standard of beauty for both sexes, stop stereotyping race, and more often have the woman receiving equal pleasure in straight porn. One of the biggest problems with porn is that it gives people unrealistic expectations about orgasms. I’m sure the vast majority of teenage straight boys with internet connections think their dick is a magic orgasm machine for women, when really only 30% of women are physically capable of having orgasms from penetration alone. It portrays the goal of sex as achieving orgasm and plays into the shame people feel when they or their partner can’t.

11 Mar 2012

Ask Lesbow Dash: Gender in MLP.

rainbowdash-likesgirls:

The most important lesson I’ve learned from Friendship is Magic is that your gender doesn’t dictate the way you have to be. You don’t have to consistently conform to one side of the gender binary, and because you may have one “feminine” characteristic doesn’t mean you don’t have other “masculine”…

((I feel like reblobbing this, so yeah.))

9 Mar 2012

Figured that you have already seen this, but on the off chance you have not. Bad Romance: Women’s Suffrage

((I had not yet. Glorious!))

28 Feb 2012
((Dammit, I really like Cadence’s design and I want to like her, but yeah. I really like the two princesses because they’re kind of nontraditional—caring, not snobbish, have actual emotions and personalities rather than just being demure and devoid of opinion. And then Hasbro (I feel like this was their decision and not Lauren’s) had to go and stick an arbitrary third princess in there so she could be pink and marry a male and they can make money off the perpetuation of female stereotypes.))

((Dammit, I really like Cadence’s design and I want to like her, but yeah. I really like the two princesses because they’re kind of nontraditional—caring, not snobbish, have actual emotions and personalities rather than just being demure and devoid of opinion. And then Hasbro (I feel like this was their decision and not Lauren’s) had to go and stick an arbitrary third princess in there so she could be pink and marry a male and they can make money off the perpetuation of female stereotypes.))

18 Feb 2012

Women seem pretty okay in American and most of the western world. What are feminist really fighting for at least in our hemisphere?

((Closing the wage gap, increasing opportunities for women in various career fields and politics, women’s health and the right to make their own reproductive choices, and mostly, raising awareness about & hopefully, someday eradicating harmful stereotypes that breed discrimination against women and affect women’s perceptions of themselves.))

16 Feb 2012
blueandbluer: edenb: religiousragings: No, you can’t deny women their basic rights and pretend it’s about your “religious freedom.”  If you don’t like birth control, don’t use it.  Religious freedom doesn’t mean you can force others to live by your own beliefs.  - Barack Obama oh, BO. You understand me.  Boom. ((I love this man.))

blueandbluer:

edenb:

religiousragings:

No, you can’t deny women their basic rights and pretend it’s about your “religious freedom.”  If you don’t like birth control, don’t use it.  Religious freedom doesn’t mean you can force others to live by your own beliefs.  - Barack Obama

oh, BO. You understand me. 

Boom.

((I love this man.))

(Source: atheiststardust, via stfuconservatives)

12 Feb 2012

The T-swift mothers are wrong and slut shammers. Saying it is the ONLY way a woman should act is wrong but this is not what he nor I was saying. In the words of lady gaga "Women are both strong AND FRAGILE" and I believe it was in Mary Poppins where it was said that "We are advocating for the chance to vote not the requirement." The fact that some women like the old, lady like ways is not arrested development but and equally valid one. Women can be fragil, lady-like and pure if they want to be.

((Not without questioning WHY they want to. Usually such a desire comes from a desire to fit in and conform. If that’s not it and it’s just the way they are, then yes, that is fine.))

12 Feb 2012

About the video. Don't you see that is the point. The idea that men are the bread winners and stronger is just as damaging to men (perhaps more so) as it is to women. That is where the idea the feminists are only interested in women lie.

((But It COMES from misogyny. Women CAN’T be breadwinners, so men MUST be. And that means the men experience all the privilege because they get to be at the pinnacle of society, have careers and social lives.))

12 Feb 2012

Watched the vid. Yes it was discriminating against the poor that is what the video is saying. It was making the case that women's voting rights were never about women but rather about class struggles thereby deprecating the ground that feminism arose from. If you view further into the video it talks about sexism against men.

((Feminism is, and always has been, about way more than voting rights. You can’t just go “SOME MEN DIDN’T HAVE VOTING RIGHTS EITHER EVEN THOUGH SOME OF THEM DID AND ALL OF THEM DID IN AMERICA BEFORE WOMEN SO HA FEMINISM IS FALSE!”))

12 Feb 2012

You know, I've never, ever seen you fight against male sterotypes. In fact, my opinion of you has gone downhill from "Crusader" to "Angry Teen"

((Except for all the times I’ve talked about how harmful the masculinity standard is to men, how the expectations of men to be hypersexual harms men in relationships, and how the connotation of studiousness as feminine and/or uncool discourages boys in school. But at the same time, you must acknowledge that men are privileged and pretty much all expectations of men are misogyny in disguise because they have to do with avoiding femininity.))